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April 13, 2020
This COVID-19 crisis hasn’t fooled anyone. We’re still sexual beings.
Whether we’re single and practicing social distancing, or in an established relationship and self-isolating with our partners… For all of us, it’s a bit of a strange time sexually.
Some of us are so stressed out right now that our libidos have taken a complete nose-dive, and it’s the last thing on our minds… But for others, we just can’t stop thinking about it. Everyone seems to be talking about how these times of stress have an immense effect on our sex drives.
So what’s the deal? An amusing amount of research is going into exploring this sexual phenomena emerging right now, and understanding the two different sides. Psychologists are delving deeply into the factors that determine why two people can respond to the exact same situation in very different ways. The whole world is fascinated as to why this lockdown anxiety is fanning the flames of sexual desire in some of us, but dampening desire like a wet blanket for others. Rather interestingly, we mustn’t be the only ones wondering why everything bedroom-related feels a little heightened (or suppressed) right now. Because, for as many studies being reported that are revealing new information about Coronavirus… There seem to be almost as many research papers championing the benefits and importance of continuing to get it on... Even if it’s just with ourselves.
AND WE’RE ALL FOR IT.
So whatever your current quarantine situation... don’t forget the astounding health benefits and stress relief we can find when our focus turns to getting all sexed-up.
All these scientists must be onto something good. So go ahead and take your cue to slip out of your favorite sweatpants that have been your uniform for the last few weeks- and dust off all your silky, lacy and downright naughty lingerie that you’d almost forgotten about.
Even if the only person who’s going to be admiring that sexy image of you is yourself in the mirror.
You know what makes you feel desirable. We all have our little rituals that are our personal sure-fire guaranteed routines to get ourselves in the mood for some intimate encounters… Whether that be getting ready for a date night out on the town, barhopping with our girlfriends (and hoping to meet a sexy someone), or having a steamy night in with your significant other.
Perhaps you slide into a slinky new dress and your fiercest lipstick, or dance around your apartment in some confidence-boosting purple lingerie to a sultry playlist while sipping on some wine, to get yourself into that sexy headspace. But no matter what flavor your “feeling sexy and strong” poison is- everyone has their own special ritual that gets us in the mood, sets the stage, loosens us up.
Feeling good about ourselves and feeling sexy go hand-in-hand. You may have been neglecting a few of your usual personal care rituals during the lockdown because nobody’s going to see you, or perhaps you figure that the rest of the world has been slouching around in their sweats for days, so you might as well too. But skipping those nice things we do to honor our beauty and feeling of well-being can take its toll on our self-image, and have a devastating effect on our libidos.
Being coupled up in self-isolation with your significant other sounds like the perfect setting to languish around all day together in a romantic love bubble, right? You’ve got countless opportunities during the day to sweep each other off your feet and share moments of intimacy, whispering sweet nothings to each other... right?!
Ummm, perhaps not so much. Lockdown is presenting some pretty unsexy circumstances for couples right now.
You’re now suddenly right up in each other’s business, all the time. You’re potentially juggling separate working-from-home schedules- or, to add even more pressure and uncertainty... maybe one of you has unexpectedly found yourself without a job, and has to rely on the other for financial support.
Add into the mix the confronting reality that we’re now losing out on all our precious alone time we’d usually rely on for recharging our batteries... Plus, to do all those little personal care things we’d rather remain a mystery to our other half- like clipping our toenails and tweezing that random chin hair.
Pair this with some pretty unsexy tasks, like negotiating the new division of household disinfecting responsibilities… Whilst wallowing around in your Falcons jerseys and slipper socks, still sporting wild bed head hair at 3pm. And let’s face it, you’ve probably gotten a bit more comfortable with leaving the door open when you go to the bathroom in front of each other.
Perhaps you’re both in self-isolation, but in separate houses down the street, or across town… Or you might be in different states. Or maybe even on opposite sides of the globe.
You might have just started an exciting new courtship before the lockdown, and are wondering if your early-stage relationship will be able to survive these new challenges in keeping connected without that physical element. You may be asking yourself if you even want it to...
Keeping romance alive has suddenly become the Wild, Wild West.
But everything is telling us to keep on having sex to boost our immune systems, get bursts of stress-reducing endorphins, and enjoy a relieving escape from the current tension. So, if you’re feeling the struggle of getting in the mood and lining up schedules with your partner for some thoroughly endorsed sexy time, try some techniques to keep that spark alive:
Single? Doing the long-distance thing? Looking for a virtual fling with a stranger, with no strings attached to give you some gratification and a little virtual vacation from the everyday? We won’t judge. And nobody else should either.
Even if you are coupled up, taking some time alone to sexually connect with yourself will put some twinkle back in your eyes and make you feel like a goddess. The best thing about masturbation is that there’s nothing else to worry about except the indulgent pursuit of your own pleasure.
If you’re a stranger to exploring what really pushes your pleasure buttons, and perfecting your own most mind-blowing orgasm… There’s no time like the present to dedicate some time to honing this super gratifying skill. Whether you’re single or attached, getting intimate with yourself can seriously improve your sex life, both with a partner and solo. Here’s some ideas to take your solo sessions to the next level:
We hope you’re making the most of your lockdown experience and celebrating the beautiful, sexual, desirable woman you are! We sure know we are.
Wishing you blissfully breathless adventures between the sheets…
~Keneesha and the Urbanbella Team
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